Decided to be "Just a Mom"

Has anyone ever referred to you as "just a mom" or "house wife/mom"? Well, I am here to tell you that you have the most important life out of any job, work, or career. Notice how I didn't say "most important job". That is because being a mom is the most rewarding gift God could bless us with. Of course there are hard times, days, and sometimes weeks where we don't know if things will get easier. But then it gets easier and it goes in waves.

I am here to tell you that you are not "just a mom". You are THE MOM, and THE FOUNDATION of your family. If you have the opportunity with your other half and finances to stay at home and raise your children the way you both want, embrace it and be proud of that. That is not the norm today. Yes, for a lot of stay at home mom's it is a transition. I used to work 80 hours a week for 7 years in medicine. I loved my job, but my husband and I decided that giving our children one of us 100% of time time is the best for our family. I gave my career up to be a mom. And I don't ever once regret that nor will I.

Being a stay at home mom does bring its challenges of course. However, with each season of being a stay at home mom, you learn to adjust. And without realizing it, you are showing your children how to adapt as life changes. You have to find yourself really find who you are. You might think you knew who you were before being a stay at home mom, but you just masked who you are with education and work. Take this opportunity to soul search. It can get messy, it can cause a lot of emotions, but it will give you strength, your children strength and wisdom, it will help your marriage, and you will be so happy.

Being a stay at home mom you can get forgotten. I do and honestly, I am the "forgotten" friend/family member, and honestly it has broken my heart for such a long time. I have been ignored, forgotten and not included in a lot of family/friend events, I haven't really ever been checked up on by only a select few with two pregnancies. It really heart for a long time and I really was angry. I thought "I always check up on my friends, both pregnant and not, my extended family, etc., why isn't anyone caring about me? why am I so forgettable?". But then one night it just dawned on me, I am not forgettable by the most important people in my world, my husband and kids and of course our dog.

Forget about everyone else. Truly if they don't bring you peace in your life right now in this really life changing time, take them off of your placemat. Focus on what is yours and what matters most to you. Dive so deep into that and embrace it and build your family from the ground up. You mom, are the foundation and without a strong foundation the house will fall.

So mom's, yes to others you might be "just a stay at home mom", but honestly you have it better than anyone else. Your family will be strong, you will be happy and be the best version of yourself. But in order to do that you have to dig deep. Don't play victim anymore and forget about those around you that don't care or understand your life. Trust few and share a little because most people don't truly are for your best interest... they are only curious.

I will be sharing more on how to find who you are as a stay at home mom. Stay in touch and embrace who you are. Until then remember you are THE MOM. You have to build a strong, loving, caring, precious, and secure foundation for your marriage and your children. Love hard and work hard.

You got this!

<3 S